“GTom” as we all knew him, one of the last and finest of the old school gentlemen, passed on February 4, 2025, at his Mountain Lake, Florida home at which he had very happily taken up year round residence in late 2021 after a partial recovery from a stroke in October of 2020. That move from Deer Park, Greenwich CT where he and his wife Dana, and daughter Lee, to both of whom he was devoted, had lived many years as a family.
Tom was born January 15, 1940 in Schenectady, New York, to William and Margaret Hanson Aydelotte. After succeeding at Secondary School (at Hotchkiss), Tom attended Colgate University, Hamilton, NY where his principal extra-curricular focus was leading the Colgate13, its fabled a cappella group. Tom was forever an appreciator of fine music. Tom’s business career and success revolved around the then throbbing competitive advertising business in the 60’s and 70’s in New York. After breaking in with Benton & Bowles as a media buyer for Proctor & Gamble, General Foods and Texaco, his longest affiliation was with Grey Advertising where he was Executive Vice President and also managed multinational accounts, then was hired by Cheesborough Ponds as Brand Manager for their Vaseline and Ponds lines. Tom’s final chapter in the business world was as an Executive Search professional with his own firm, Ingram and Aydelotte, where among other high-profile assignments, he recruited and placed Fay Vincent as the Commissioner of Major League Baseball (1989-1993).
Tom and Dana were popular and enjoyed many many enduring friendships in and around Greenwich (Round Hill Club, after Tom was President of the Stanwich Club), resulting from their golf enthusiasm. Tom was a low-handicapper, Dana was a scratch handicapper! And Tom’s prowess at tennis and paddle and squash gave him great pleasure. Tom particularly enjoyed his work as a board member and key volunteer of The Wild Center, Museum of the Adirondacks, which kept his interest, particularly following Dana’s passing in 2002 which jolted him tremendously.
Tom leaves his daughter, Lee (Jim Randall) who he loved and who brought him keen pride as a designer and as she forged a career as a major factor in the Fairfield/Westchester area estate sales business. Tom’s grandson Jackson Boffey has also gave Tom pride as he flourished and became a gentleman. Tom is also survived his sister Margaret Mills, and her children Julie (Andrew) Levine and Tommy (Karin) Mills. His brother-in-law Richard Lombard, and his daughter Carter L. Sullivan.
Tom’s family wishes to express their sincere thanks – Tom’s also- to his wonderfully devoted personal aide and health care representative, Timothy Williams, and his wife Kaylee and their daughter Bella, for their support, and also to Gloria Carnley for hers over decades.
In lieu of flowers, please send donations to The Wild Center or Bok Tower Gardens.
